To install xfce on freebsd , please check this post . To install vmware tools on freebsd , and while using the console , and before starting X , first change to root :

$ su - 
# switch to root , and enter your password . 

next install open vmware tools with the mouse and video drivers :

$ pkg install open-vm-tools xf86-video-vmware xf86-input-vmmouse

# install open vmware tools , with video and
# mouse drivers . 

edit the /etc/rc.conf file and make sure that these lines exist :

$ edit /etc/rc.conf
# edit /etc/rc.conf file .

hald_enable="YES" 
moused_enable="YES" 
dbus_enable="YES" 
vmware_guest_vmblock_enable="YES"
vmware_guest_vmhgfs_enable="YES"
vmware_guest_vmmemctl_enable="YES"
vmware_guest_vmxnet_enable="YES"
vmware_guestd_enable="YES"
#make sure these lines exist . 

edit the /boot/loader.conf file and add :

$ edit /boot/loader.conf
# edit the /boot/loader.conf file .

fuse_load="YES"
# make sure this line exists .

edit the /etc/fstab file and add :

edit /etc/fstab
# edit the /etc/fstab file .

.host:/    /mnt/hgfs        vmhgfs-fuse    failok,rw,allow_other,mountprog=/usr/local/bin/vmhgfs-fuse   0    0
# add this line .

create the directory /mnt/hgfs :

$ mkdir /mnt/hgfs

reboot the system:

$ shutdown -r now  
# reboot the system .

Change to root :

$ su - 
# switch to root , and enter your password . 

Generate Xorg configuration file by running :

$ Xorg -configure

edit the newly generated xorg.conf.new configuration file :

$ edit xorg.conf.new

# search for Driver    "mouse"
# and replace it with 
Driver    "vmmouse"


# make sure that under Section "Device" ,
# there exist 
Identifier   "Card0"
Driver       "vmware"
BusID        "PCI:0:15:0"

# and that under Section "Screen" 
# Device for "Screen0" is set to
# "Card0"
Identifier "Screen0"
Device     "Card0"

move the newly generated file to /usr/local/etc/X11/xorg.conf.d/xorg.conf :

$ mv xorg.conf.new /usr/local/etc/X11/xorg.conf.d/xorg.conf

exit the root account , and now you can start X by running startx .